Anne-Marie Slaughter wrote an article about how feminism lied to her telling her she could have it all. I think Anne-Marie should be careful about listening to those voices that only she hears. So she attacks feminism and whines a lot as only the upper-middle class can.
She was on Terry Gross' Fresh Air today (the article was published today -- you think strings weren't pulled for this appearance?) and quickly revealed what a fraud she is.
TERRY GROSS: Were there other women in the State Department in your predicament of having trouble balancing parenting with the schedule, with the work schedule, or other women in your position at national security meetings, or other men in your position?
ANNE-MARIE SLAUGHTER: There were, and indeed in the article, I describe that Deputy Secretary of State Jim Steinberg and Deputy Secretary of Defense Bill Lynn both had young children and both stepped down after two-plus years. And I should say here that I served my full term as director of policy planning, which is to say two years is kind of the minimum term.
Hey, liar Anne-Marie, did feminism lie to Bill Lynch and Jim Steinberg?
Anne-Marie Slaughter is a fake ass (who went around advocating for the Iraq War to put it mildly) who thought of a new fake ass persona -- Victimized Woman! -- that could sell a bad book.
As Bill Lynch and Jim Steinberg make clear, this isn't about feminism.
Here's C.I.'s "Iraq snapshot:"
Thursday,
 June 21, 2012.  Chaos and violence continue, Jalal supposedly swearing 
he'll resign (and Iraqis yawn in response), the political crisis 
continues, an Iraqi is detained by French police, another Iraqi is 
refused by the European Union, in the US the Congress hears about Guard 
and Reserve members being fired from their civilian jobs, non-feminist 
Anne-Marie Slaughter takes a break from declaring war on foreign 
countries to declare war on feminism, and much more.
Alsumaria reports
 that KRG President Massoud Barzani states Nouri al-Maliki -- prime 
minister of Iraq and chief thug of the operation -- is sewing sedition 
in several ways and that his supporters are pushing a false rumor: That a
 Barzani, in exchange for Nouri's consent on an oil deal [the ExxonMobil
 deal], Barzani will bury his complaints and grievances over Nouri's 
pattern of rule.  Barzani calls the rumor a lie. 
Many
 feel Nouri's charges against Iraqi Vice President Tareq al-Hashemi are a
 lie as well.  To review, let's fall back to drop back to the April 30th snapshot:
The political crisis was already well in effect when December 2011 rolled around. The press rarely gets that fact correct. When December 2011 rolls around you see Iraqiya announce a boycott of the council and the Parliament, that's in the December 16th snapshot and again in a December 17th entry . Tareq al-Hashemi is a member of Iraqiya but he's not in the news at that point. Later, we'll learn that Nouri -- just returned from DC where he met with Barack Obama -- has ordered tanks to surround the homes of high ranking members of Iraqiya. December 18th is when al-Hashemi and Deputy Prime Minister Saleh al-Mutlaq are pulled from a Baghdad flight to the KRG but then allowed to reboard the plane. December 19th is when the arrest warrant is issued for Tareq al-Hashemi by Nouri al-Maliki who claims the vice president is a 'terrorist.' .
The political crisis was already well in effect when December 2011 rolled around. The press rarely gets that fact correct. When December 2011 rolls around you see Iraqiya announce a boycott of the council and the Parliament, that's in the December 16th snapshot and again in a December 17th entry . Tareq al-Hashemi is a member of Iraqiya but he's not in the news at that point. Later, we'll learn that Nouri -- just returned from DC where he met with Barack Obama -- has ordered tanks to surround the homes of high ranking members of Iraqiya. December 18th is when al-Hashemi and Deputy Prime Minister Saleh al-Mutlaq are pulled from a Baghdad flight to the KRG but then allowed to reboard the plane. December 19th is when the arrest warrant is issued for Tareq al-Hashemi by Nouri al-Maliki who claims the vice president is a 'terrorist.' .
And
 al-Hashemi has been in Turkey while a Baghdad court, controlled by 
Nouri, pretends to be offering an impartial trial.  This despite the Baghdad
 judges declared him guilty in February at their press conference and 
while one judge was stating that he had been threatened by al-Hashemi,
 before the trial even started, they declared al-Hashemi guilty.  That 
press conference demonstrated that al-Hashemi was correct, he would not 
get a fiar trial in the Baghdad courts (he had asked that the trial be 
moved to the KRG or to Kirkuk).  In May, the trial began.  His attorneys
 have walked out at least once in protest of the judges' behavior.  
The judges have also refused to allow Vice President al-Hashemi to call 
President Jalal Talabani to the stand as a character witness.  
Tareq
 al-Hashemi remains Vice President.  That should mean the trial 
shouldn't even be taking place.  His term would need to have expired or 
he would need to resign or he would need to be voted out of office to 
stand trial.  As Vice President of Iraq, Tareq al-Hashemi is now in 
Saudi Arabi where, Alsumaria reports, he
 is conveying condolences over Prince Nayef bin Abdul Aziz's death.  
That's a trip that Nouri couldn't make successfully.  Tariq al-Hashemi 
is Sunni Arab.  Nouri's not and Nouri's constant verbal attacks on Saudi
 Arabia -- as well as Saudi Arabia's snub of   his Arab League Summit in
 March -- go to the fact that they don't trust him.  For good reason.  
Last Friday,  Alsumaria reported
 he was publicly accusing Saudi Arabi and Qatar of trying to destroy 
Iraq and Syria.  President Jalal Talabani probably could have handled 
the trip and the diplomacy aspect but he's fled Iraq for Germany.
Commenting on al-Hashemi's trial, Press TV gloms
 on Alia Nsayef of White Iraqiya -- a splinter group that broke off from
 the larger Iraqiya and has carried water for Nouri repeatedly since 
doing so.  Nsayef insists to Press TV that the trial is fair.  We'll be 
kind and assume the next section contains an editing error which leads 
to confusion and appears to indicate Iraqiya's Hamed al-Mutlaq was 
vouching for the court.  He was doing no such thing.   Mohamad Ali Harissi (AFP) quotes
 al-Mutlaq stating, "All evidence during the past months indicate that 
the judiciary was not successful in many things, and the effect on it of
 politicisation is clear.  We need a separation of powers and to   
define responsibilities and stop the interference in the work of the 
judiciary, which is not up to the standard of the Iraqis, though Iraqis 
were one of the first people to adopt laws." 
A large number of Iraqis took to Baghdad's Firdous Square this week to protest Nouri.  Dar Addustour (check out the photo of the turnout, this was a huge turnout) reports
 Moqtada al-Sadr supporters showed up demanding that the media be free, 
that people speak freely and that no one muzzle the voice of democracy. 
 Kitabat notes
 that Nouri's effort to shut down satellite chanel Baghdadi resulted in 
the large turnout and that the crowd chanted Moqtada's name.  Dar Addustour
 reports that Nouri attempted to limit -- if not halt -- the protests by
 butting off raods to the square, stationing security guards throughout 
and   more.  Nouri dismissed the protest and their objections to him 
while insisting that his critics can say anything about him but he's 
gagged/prevented from speaking about them.  Iraqi President Jalal 
Talabani had no comment because he's fled to Germany.
He don't show much these days
It gets so f**king cold
I loved his secret places
But I can't go anymore
"You change like sugar cane"
Says my northern lad
I guess you go too far
When pianos try to be guitars
I feel the west in you 
And I feel it falling apart too 
-- "Northern Lad," written by Tori Amos, first appears on her From The Choirgirl Hotel
It
 hasn't been a good time for Northern Lad Jalal.  For awhile there, he 
could hang with Moqtada, Iraqiya's Ayad Allawi and KRG President Massoud
 Barzani.  Then he refused to follow the Constitution and forward a 
petition to Parliament.  Jalal decided he had a 'right' to verify 
signatures and verify meant something other than: Did you sign this?  "I
 signed it two weeks ago but I've changed my mind" meant Jalal struck 
your name and he then turned around and insisted that the petition 
didn't have enough signatures.  He was gripping any excuse he could as 
quickly became obvious.  And now he finds himself alone hence the trip 
to Germany.
Kitabat reported last week on Talabani's June 9th declaration that he wouldn't forward the signatures for a no-confidence vote, thereby ending that process for the Parliament to vote Nouri al-Maliki out as prime minister. Of Jalal's change of heart, Qassim Abdul-Zahra (AP) noted, "Talabani has close ties to Iran, which has been using its leverage in Iraq to keep al-Maliki in place. Divisions among the prime minister's opponents may also be undercutting the no confidence push." Dar Addustour also focused on the messages that Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad has been sending Jalal Talabani. And it wasn't just Iran putting the pressure on Jalal. By mid-week, Dar Addustor was reporting that eye witnesses claim Jalal was visited by a convoy of US officials (ten vehicles) who explained to him what he was going to do. (Both the US White House and the Iranian government backed Nouri al-Maliki in 2010.) While Jalal danced for his masters, Alsumaria reported Speaker of Parliament Osama al-Nujaifi stated that he refused US Vice President Joe Biden's request that he meet with Nouri al-Maliki. He states that Tony Blinken (Biden's National Security Advisor) made the request on Biden's behalf and urged that the opposition to Nouri back down. Kitabat noted that the US publicly insists it is not biased towards either side of the debate but that it worked repeatedly to undercut the opposition and to save Nouri from a no-confidence vote.
His former allied pals didn't just roll over the way Jalal so often does.  Instead, Alsumaria reported
 they met-up in Erbil on June 10th and discussed how to mobilize 
Parliament to take on the issue of the power grab and Nouri's monopoly 
of power.  Moqtada al-Sadr would insist after the meeting that the 
process continues.  Later in the week,  Al Rafidayn reported
 that Massoud Barzani also declared that efforts continue to replace 
Nouri and to "repel the dictatorship"   as the Iraqi people want to 
happen.
And then Alsumaria reported
 Iraqiya head Ayad Allawi explained that Iraqi President Jalal Talabani 
was the one reassuring everyone April 28th that a withdrawal of 
confidence could be done and Nouri al-Maliki easily replaced.  Allawi 
states that Talabani stated no Constitutional mechanism was required, 
Talabani merely had to withdraw confidence.  The next day Alsumaria reported
 that the Kurdistan Alliance has declared they do not support the Iraqi 
president traveling out of the country (he had planned a trip to the US 
for health issues caused by his gross obesity) and that the Kurdistan 
Alliance was calling on him to respect the no-confidence petition which 
has 176 signatures (and which they expect to gather more signatures -- 
the figure they give is 190).  Alliance MP Mahma Khalil  repeated that 
in April in Erbil (that would be the April 28th meet-up), Jalal stated 
he could replace Nouri with a no-confidence vote that would leave the 
rest of the elements of   government in place.  Yes, the exact charge 
that Allawi had made the day before.  The next day it was time for Jalal to talk to Alsumaria and he insisted that Ayad Allawi was wrong (he avoided calling out or mentioning Mahma Khalil who'd made the same charges).
The waters were simmering and looked likely to boil.   Al Rafidayn noted
 so many were upset with Jalal that he's had to prepare a public letter 
for the PUK to distribute to its members.  But the big drama would wait 
for Saturday.  With less than 24 hours before a meet-up of Iraqiya's 
Allawi, KRG President Barzani and Moqtada al-Sadr, news emerged via Alsumaria
 that Jalal had resorted to a strongly worded letter  to Speaker of 
Parliament Osama al-Nujaifi, Iraqiya   head Ayad Allawi and KRG 
President Massoud Barazni in which he belittled Moqtada al-Sadr and in 
which he insisted he'd rather resign than change his opinion and forward
 the petition with 176 signatures to Parliament.  A strongly worded 
letter left him so weakened that he had to immediately flee Iraq and 
head to Germany.
From his hospital sick bed, 
Jalal's issued near daily thoughts and affirmations via the press.  
Yesterday, he resorted to a spokesperson.  Dar Addustour reports
 that the spokesperson declared Jalal had surgery but would not disclose
 what type of surgery or even a general reason for the surgery.  There 
was time, however, to float a rumor that, as soon as he returned to 
Iraq, Jalal planned to announce his resignation as president.
If that was meant to lead to cries of "Heavens no!," poor Jalal, no one appears to care.
Today, AP reports that Speaker al-Nujaifi has declared Nouri must face the Parliament for questions. Alsumaria adds that Ayad Allawi declared today that there are committees forming for the questioning of Nouri before Parliament.  Fang Yang (Xinhua) reports
 on it and manages to do what the US press repeatedly refuses to do: 
Explain what the   political crisis stems from: Nouri's failure to honor
 the Erbil Agreement.  Yang: 
They
 also accused the prime minister of evading his commitments to 
implementing the terms of a power-sharing deal that he signed with rival
 political parties.
The deal, also known as
 the Arbil agreement, was signed in November 2010 in Kurdistan in 
northern Iraq. It paved the way for Maliki's fragile partnership 
government after Iraq's political rivals ended their differences that 
lasted eight months following the parliamentary elections in March 2010.
  
Alsumaria reports
 that the UN Secretary-General's Special Envoy to Iraq Martin Kobler met
 today with al-Sistani.  What did Kobler speak to al-Sistani about?  The
 political crisis, the lack of basic public services, the stalled oil 
and gas law.  In another article, Alsumaria notes Kobler last   visited al-Sistani November 21st of last year.  Meanwhile Qassim Abdul-Zahra and Brian Murphy (AP) report, "Tehran is calling in favors among its allied factions in Iraq and exerting its significant religious and commercial influence to try to block Mr. al-Maliki's opponents from getting a no-confidence motion." 
One neighbor that Nouri gets along with currently is the government of Iran.  Yesterday, Reporters Without Borders noted the disappearance of a journalist:
Reporters Without Borders is very concerned about Mouloud Anfand, the editor of the magazine Kurd-Israel,
 who has been missing for the past 11 days in Iraq's northern Kurdistan 
region. According to his family and various media sources, he set off 
from Erbil on 9 June with aim of going to Sulaymaniyah and has not been 
seen since.   
"We fear 
the worst and we urge the autonomous Kurdistan Regional Government's 
authorities to do everything possible to find Mouloud Anfand," Reporters
 Without Borders said. "And we therefore call for an immediate 
investigation into this journalist's disappearance."   
Armand, who is of Iranian origin, has been living in Iraqi Kurdistan for several years. Kurd-Israel
 is published by the Kurd-Israel Association, which promotes better 
relations between Israelis and Kurds and encourages Kurdish Jews who 
emigrated to Israel to return to Kurdistan.   
Israel Nation News notes Israel Army Radio is reporting "he was abducted by Iranian intelligence."  Alsumaria notes Mouloud Armand's colleagues believe Iranian intelligence has abducted him.
It's
 doubtful the government out of Tehran would kidnap Iraqi Colonel Sadiq 
Mohammad Kazim, Nouri's military officer who oversaw the 2009 and 2011 
assaults on Camp Ashraf.  But not everyone's as enamored of him as Nouri
 and Tehran.  AP reports
 the European Union refused to admit him this week when he was sent as 
part of a delgation.  Camp Ashraf contained approximately 3500 Iranian 
dissidents whose presence in   Iraq dates back to the 1980s.  They were 
welcomed into the country back then.  Since Nouri was installed by the 
US as prime minister in 2006, there's been a non-stop effort to evict 
the residents from the country.  Currently the UN has relocated 
approximately 2,000 to Camp Liberty.  The remaining members have thus 
far refused to move because they want the US to conduct a search of Camp
 Ashraf while they're present.  Since the State Dept has -- for some 
idiotic reason -- made the status of the MEK (terrorist or not 
terrorist) dependent upon how this transfer goes and on whether they 
find weapons after Camp Ashraf is empty, it's not an unreasonable 
request.  They've been attacked by Nouri's forces.  They've been 
targeted.  They have good cause to fear and, if it's just paranoia on 
their part, no harm is done by the US doing a search prior to the 
departure of the last residents.  (Their fear is that, after   they're 
gone, Nouri's goons will plant things in the camp and when the US State 
Dept finally gets off its ass -- remember a US federal court ordered the
 State Dept to review the classification two years ago -- all these 
things will have been planted in and around the camp.)  
Camp Liberty?  Nouri's put Sadeq Kazem in charge of it.  And now he gets to be in the news.  AFP reports
 that the French police hauled him in for questioning today as a result 
of a complaint filed by a resident of Camp Ashraf who states he or she 
was tortured and that he or she was tortured on the orders of Sadeq 
Kazem.  Alsumaria reports
 Nouri's spokesperson insists that Kazem will be released shortly and 
that the real abuse is the French and their detaining   Kazem.  That's 
good, Nouri, start attacking the European states now.  You've got no 
friends among the Arab states and now it's time to clear the deck of 
Europe as well?
Today in the US,
 the House Veterans Affairs Subcommittee on Economic Opportunity held a 
hearing, chaired by US House Rep Marlin Stutzman, on proposed bills.  
One of the bills discussed was the H.R. 3860 is the Help Veterans Return to Work Act.  US House Rep John Garamendi is the bill's sponsor and it has 21 co-sponsors. 
The second panel was composed of VFW's Ryan Gallucci, American Legion's
 Steve Gonzalez, Reserve Officers Association MG Andrew Davis and 
attorney John S. Odom.  Gonzalez spoke of the Legion supporting H.R. 
3860 with one exception: they'd allow the undue hardship protections to 
apply only to small businesses.  Davis conveyed that the Reserve Officers Association
 supports the bill and feels that undue hardship isn't an issue because 
it "only applies to a small minority of reemployment claims.  This 
mainly applies to those service members who have disabilites that were 
incurred or aggravated during uniformed service, and after reasonable 
efforts by the employer to accoomodate the disability, is not qualified 
due to such disability to be   employed in the position of 
employment."   Gallucci noted the VFW opposes the bill and fears it may 
result in less veterans and service members being hired by big 
companies.   Odom had no comments on it (his practice helps service 
members and veterans who have problems with banks and other lending 
institutions and his remarks focused on bills that covered those 
institutions).  Gallucci was asked to speak further to H.R. 3860 and 
we're going to note that part.
Chair
 Marlin Stutzman:  I've got two questions and the first one is for Mr. 
Gallucci.  You go into detail on the potential impact of H.R. 3860.  
What would it have -- What kind of impact would it have on service 
members's abilities to be employed by large employers?
Ryan
 Gallucci: Absolutely, I'm glad you asked that question, Chairman.  The 
concern that we have really has to do with the veterans ability to get 
through the door.  When we look at the unemployment statistics for 
veterans -- even in the age group 18 to 24 -- it's our belief that we 
are not even talking about veterans who are asking for re-employment.  
These are veterans who are looking for first-time employment. And what 
we saw in the report from the Center for a New American Security was 
that one of the top concerns for potential employers considering hiring a
 reserve-component service member or a veteran was the perpetual threat 
of a military obligation.  Now one of our big concerns beyond this -- 
beyond reserve-component service members is that within the 
civilian-military disconnect, there's a general misunderstanding of the 
difference between a reserve-component service member and a veteran.  
Myself, I have   been asked on job interviews when discussing my 
military service whether or not I would have to go back?  I left the 
military in 2007.  That is absolutely not a concern that I would be 
recalled to active duty.  So our concern is that when we're talking 
about these daunting unemployment figures for Iraq and Afghanistan 
veterans that we run the risk of making them even more unattractive to 
large employers if we do away with the due process through which an 
employer could demonstrate that there may have been a hardship, there 
may have been a reduction in force and it may be necessary to let a 
certain employee go.  Now what we do support is stronger enforcement of 
 USSERRA [Uniformed Services Employment and Re-employment Rights Act of 
1994] policy.  This is where we see the major gap -- when state attorney
 generals are only prosecuting 8% of the USSERRA complaints that come 
through their offices, when we hear from Dept of   Labor that they're 
running up against major defenses from the legal defenses of these major
 corporations, that's not necessarily because of the undue hardship 
clause.    That'll continue. They'll continue to fight for why they 
don't need to live up to their USSERRA obligations.  But we're concerned
 with this on the front-end would impact veterans in their ability to 
land a job to begin with. 
We
 may come back to this hearing or grab a Wednesday hearing (also on 
proposed bills) in tomorrow's snapshot.  I'm not taking a position on 
the bill.  We're including that because I was surprised there was such a
 sharp break between the VFW and the other service organizations on the 
bill and because Galluci talked about how common the issue of the 
returning finding out that there jobs are not there.  This is a serious 
problem and it is illegal to fire someone who is called up for duty 
because they were called up.  We've noted this and we've noted how 
common it is and how little the press reports on it.  Probably because 
Guard and Reserve members don't take out ads in newspapers or on 
television but big corporations do.  That's certainly an easy 
explanation for the lack of coverage.  As Gallucci notes, it's a fairly 
widespread problem and you don't get that from the press.  
Iraq War Hawk Anne-Marie Slaughter joined the Barack Obama administration and left two years later.  She's written a stupid article at The Atlantic
 -- one that only a non-feminist would write.  She thinks she can 
present the personal as political.  The personal as political works on 
universal experiences.  We weren't all plotting war, Anne-Marie, 
cheering on the deaths of Iraqis and, later, Libyans.
Slaughter
 had problems with her teenage son.  She makes that part of the 
article.  How sad for her teenage son.  But maybe if Mommy hadn't been a
 blood thirsty War Hawk, he wouldn't have been a troubled child.  Sorry,
 Anne-Marie, but a feminist wouldn't have written that article.  A 
feminist would have known better.
Feminism lied and betrayed Slaughter because you can't have it all!!!!
Okay,
 even the Declaration of Independence and the Constitution don't promise
 that you can have it all.  I'm confused as to which 'feminist' 
Slaughter heard say, "You can have it all!"  I've never said that and 
I've never heard any other feminist say that.  I remember a bad 
commercial from the 70s for Enjoli perfume with a song that promised 
that while a woman shook her ass for the camera.  Is Slaughter so stupid
 she thought Enjoli was the voice of feminism?  It was a corporate 
product voiced by Madison Avenue.  Grow the hell up.
Second-wave feminism was about the politics of homework, it was about very real issues.  I'm not remembering the Ms.
 magazine cover story proclaiming, "Gals, it's all been solved! Now we 
get to have it all!"  Because that cover doesn't exist.  Gloria Steinem, Flo Kennedy, Maxine Hong Kingston, Robin Morgan, Madonna Thunder Hawk, Bernice Johnson Reagon, Gloria   Anzaldua, Jo Freeman, Dolores Huerta, May Chen, Martha P. Cotera, Lorelei DeCora,  Toni Cade Bambara,
 and assorted other second-wavers never said, "You can have it all!" 
They didn't make that promise in word and they didn't make that promise 
in action.  Feminism wouldn't be an ongoing struggle for equality if we 
could have it all currently.  And I believe it was Marlo Thomas who rightly pointed out in those early second-wave days that she
 needed a wife.  The point she was making at that time was that with all
 she had to do, she could sure use someone to do all the things that 
married women were expected to do for their husbands at that time.  
Marlo's entire point refutes Anne-Marie's lie that feminism promised her
 she could have it all.  I've never read a more stupid article.
And I'm going to go there. 
 Having outed your son as troubled child two years ago, I hope to hell 
that's not still true because I had to groan when I read this sentence, 
"I have not exactly left the ranks of full-time career woman; I teach a 
full course load; write regular print and online columns on foreign 
policy; give 40 to 50 speeches a year; appear regularly on TV and radio;
 and am working on a new academic book."  Again, Anne-Marie, I hope to 
hell that your child is still not troubled because clearly your plate is
 full.
Feminists, please note, don't go around
 writing things like "full-time career woman."  I've never once -- and 
I've known her for years -- heard Gloria Steinem identify herself as "a 
career woman."  That's the sort of phrase that's used in bad backlash TV
 programs (read Susan Faludi's still wonderful and still pertinent Backlash: The Undeclared War On American Women as well her equally brilliant but less well received by 'critics'  The Terror Dream. 
 The same is true of "high potential women" -- an  phrase that's meant 
to imply "professionals" (professional murderers?) like Anne-Marie but's
 really just another elitist phrase by a Queen Bee who wants to be 
bitchy and pretend she's so much better than the average woman.  (Of 
course she wants to pretend that, a Queen Bee doesn't value womanhood, 
that's why she wants to be told she 'thinks   like a man' and other 
exception-to-the-rule phrases.)
Anne-Marie
 Slaughter wanted to have a 'buzz' article to gear up for a bad book and
 the best way to do that is to blame feminism.  The media 
loves to distort feminism and they love the writers that do that work 
for them.
I don't care that she offers some 
potential solutions, I don't give a damn.  First off, there's no 
'solution' she's proposed that a feminst hasn't made before -- even 
though she's unable to credit them.  She can write a piece 
slamming feminism, please note, but she can't give credit to the women 
who've long been proposing what she's just stumbled upon.   I am so 
tired of these women who beat up on feminism to make a name for 
themselves.  I'm not talking about critical thinking, I'm not saying 
feminism if off-limits.  We especially need to be critiquing the 
second-wave now (for various reasons including what was achieved, what 
worked and also to allow those who were a part of the second-wave to 
have a chance to respond).  And I certainly don't believe that you can 
only critique in polite tones with qualifiers and sweetness.  
But
 Anne-Marie's not offering a critique -- harsh, kind or otherwise.  What
 she's done is attacked feminism and done so in a way that will have 
many readers who don't know any better (because the media always 
distorts feminism) nodding along.  There's no factual basis to her 
claim.  Feminism didn't -- and hasn't -- promised any one -- woman, man 
or child -- that they could have it all.  Feminism is an ongoing 
struggle for equality.
Is 
Anne-Marie brain dead or did she just forget 2008?  I will never forget 
2008 which reminds us of just how right the late second-wave feminist Ellen Willis
 was about the sexism in so many of our 'brothers' on the left.  Hillary
 was attacked in the press and by left males (and some females) for the 
way she looked, for the way she laughed, for her age, for her marriage 
(remember when both Michelle Obama and Elizabeth Edwards attacked 
Hillary's marriage -- weren't those 'uplifiting' moments for us all).  
She was called the most disgusting things.  The Progressive linked to a piece at The Weekly Standard
 -- a piece Matthew Rothschild enjoyed -- about the whole 'call her a 
c-word' group.  It took her being called a "bitch" on CNN  for FAIR to 
finally note the sexism of 2008 in their weekly radio show   CounterSpin.  Ava and I covered this May 25, 2008
 -- refer to that if you're late to the party on the one and only time 
the weekly half-hour media criticism show could find an example of 
sexism in campaign 2008.
Throughout the primaries, Hillary survived one sexist attack after another.  The media watchdog's weekly radio program CounterSpin ignored
 and ignored it.  It took all the complaints about their silence and 
Hillary being called a "bitch" by a commentator on CNN for FAIR to 
finally give us a brief second on their radio program where they noted 
sexism.  Again, what world has Anne-Marie been living in?
There
 are women -- including feminists -- who will try to put a sweet spin on
 it and emphasize Anne-Marie's suggestions.  I'm not playing that game. 
 You cannot take to the public square and outright lie about feminism 
and get away with it.  And "career woman," again, not a phrase feminists
 use.  Just as you'll never hear Jo Freeman call Bill Gates a "career 
man."  Anne-Marie writes like Queen Bee, squawks like a Queen Bee, I 
think she's a Queen Bee.  And, no, Queen Bee's are not feminists.  They 
are all about being the one of the few -- if not the sole -- woman in 
the room.  
Anne-Marie had jobs inside the 
home and outside the home.  She can thank feminism for that.  And 
feminism certainly is about choices.  And a feminist can choose to work 
solely inside the home or solely outside the home or to do both.  A 
feminist can raise a child or raise 50 kids or none at all.  A feminist 
can marry once or marry many men and many women or never marry at all.  
These are choices that exist because feminism exists for and fought for 
the right of a woman to have self-deterimination in her own life.  
Feminism gives women the right to vote, the right to own property, the 
right to leave a marriage (due to abuse or just because you're not 
happy) and so much more.  
Anne-Marie, the 
struggle for equality never ended because we're still not there.  I've 
been in a ton of marches for pro-choice, for equal pay for equal work, 
for what have you.  Never once did we march carrying a banner which 
read, "SUCCESS AT LAST!  STOP DEMANDING EQUALITY!  WE HAVE ACHIEVED 
IT!"  
the cook, he told me
children not exactly well 
behaved.
I said, well, you can't have it all
and really, who cares
when the magic plum wine
is dancing on the paper walls?
-- "Japanese Restaurant," written by Laura Nyro, first appears on her Laura: Live at the Bottom Line
Laura
 Nyro passed away in the 90s.  She put that song out in 1989.  Laura 
grasped that "you can't have it all" but that was news to Anne-Marie 
today? 
Feminism didn't mislead Anne-Marie.
Anne-Marie
 lied to herself.  Her problem has nothing to do with feminism.  It 
doesn't even have to do with work, actually.  She's one of those people 
that's going to try to ride life like a wild stallion, break it in and 
it's going to do just what she says.
That's 
not life, that's a control freak's wet dream.  Life is messy, life is 
hard, life is fun, life is glorious.  It changes like the weather.  It 
is chaos, it is calm. You learn to take life for what it offers as 
opposed to trying to push it up a hill and you can be a lot happier.  
Anne-Marie's biggest problem is her plan in her head didn't match what 
she now sees before her eyes.  That is life, get used to it.  She's such
 a patriarch, thinking she's going to dominate the wild nature of life, 
dominate nature itself.  What a sad, sad, wanna-be-man of a woman.
And
 remember, Anne-Marie, confessional writing is when you write about 
yourself.  And you can include many adults in your narrative.  But 
confessional writing really isn't tagging your now 16-year-old son as a 
troubled child with behavioral problems.  That's really not feminism 
either.  I don't know what it is.  Maybe an attempt to make yourself 
look noble?  It just makes you look like your so desperate for attention
 that you'll take the problems of a child and make them public for your 
own financial gain.  Again, that's not feminism.
 
